Traditional weddings are actually very similar to commitment ceremonies. The main difference is that rather than being a legally binding service between a man and woman, the gay and lesbian commitment ceremony is a public affirmation to one another. Because lesbian, gay or transgender couples are not allowed, in many states and countries, to marry under the law this alternative weddings celebration is becoming widely accepted. The celebration may include religious readings that are special to the couple, may include traditions like breaking glass, standing under a canopy or exchanging rings or it may be a very loosely structured event that is unique to the couple.

Many times what is included is up to the officiating minister. In the case of Rabbi Allen, he will work closely with the couple to determine what traditional aspects, if any, should be included. This way the ceremony will be special to the couple. You can learn more about traditional aspects of many celebration programs below.

There are many aspects of commitment ceremonies that are very similar to traditional weddings. Guests and the wedding party will be greeted, the couple will exchange vows, there may be religious or spiritual readings and music, the couple will exchange rings and will be pronounced a married or committed couple. If you would like your gay or lesbian commitment ceremony to be a bit more unique, there are ways to tweak these traditions. You could choose a modern song that is special to you both or choose classical pieces that fit more with your personalities. One big thing you can do is write your own vows. Rather than repeated what the rabbi or minister tells you to, writing a poem or promise to your partner is a touching way to show how you feel about spending the rest of your life in this new partnership. Much like interfaith weddings, a commitment ceremony can be tailored to the beliefs, desires, and wishes of the loving couple.

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